I just read an article, My virginity mistake by JESSICA CIENCIN HENRIQUEZ and I felt totally disgusted!
If your sex life was a failure does mean you should advise the world to do what you think is right.
From the article she made is clear that she is a Christian and practiced abstinence until marriage, but now she is promoting sex before marriage.
Here are my concerns;
1. Do not lead others to sin (Luke 17:1-4)
If she is still a Christian, then she should know better than encourage people to go against their religion or beliefs.
Jesus said,
“Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come. 2. It would be better for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble.”
The Bible promotes sex in marriages and prohibits people from immorality. (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11)
But Jessica is encouraging people to have sex with their partners before they get married. Therefore, if you date 100 men before getting married, her article implies that you need to have sex with all of them to make sure you are sexually compatible with them.
2. They had no sexual chemistry
From the article she says,
“As he began to kiss me, my mind shut off. I felt his movements and I heard heavy breathing but I thought nothing, it was as if it was something that was happening next to me, or to someone else entirely”
“Without having sex before marriage, I blindly walked up an aisle and committed myself to a man who didn’t know me and gave my long-held virginity to someone with whom I had no more chemistry than a second cousin.”
It is so obvious that they had no sexual chemistry whatsoever! Before you marry someone make sure you NEED them, feel it! Feel the need to be with them, fantasise about your sex life and the romance.
The virgins I know in relationships get horny when their partners are around them. They feel the need to have sex.
Before she married him, she had to make sure that she felt aroused by his touches.
This is a WAKE UP CALL for everyone, if you are going to abstain before marriage, make sure the two of you have sexual chemistry.
Even if you are not a virgin, you should still have sexual chemistry with your partner.
Kissing someone does not mean you have sexual chemistry with them.
*Do more research on sexual chemistry.*
3. Her sex life is not the ULTIMATE decider
The fact that her first marriage ended because there was no sexual chemistry does not mean, every virgin who gets married will also end up in a divorce because of his or her sex life.
Her situation is peculiar to her only. She decided to marry someone she had no sexual chemistry with so she should not assume that all virgin relationships are doomed during marriage.
Remaining a virgin until marriage does not guarantee you a great sex life. You must work hard to have a great sex life. There must be a lot of communication and practice to finally have that passionate and fulfilling sex that you want.
Not all non virgins have a great sex life, some also have failed sex lives.
Sleeping with everyone you date does not guarantee you a great sex life after marriage.
Humans are not cars that you need to test drive. You are a living being, value yourself as such and not like a car that anyone can have sex with just because they are dating you.
People should be very careful about the information they put out in the public especial from religious people.
If you decide to rebel against your religion, do not drag everyone with you.
I am Christian and I have my own problems with sex before marriage but I do not encourage Christians against abstinence until marriage.
The Bible never promised nor mention that virgins who wait till marriage have a great sex life. The Bible encourages you to get married and have sex. How you decide to have sex is your problem.
I take SALVATION very seriously because it is a personal decision. Do not influence others to commit a particular ‘sin’ because you think that ‘sin’ is not wrong.
Those still abstaining please continue with your decisions, do not let someone’s failure make you change your mind.
Jessica must accept the fact that her first marriage ended not because she waited to have sex after marriage but she because had no SEXUAL CHEMISTRY with her ex-husband.
Stop blaming God or religion and accept your own mistakes.
There are a lot of virgins who got married and are still married with great sex lives.
According to research, those who abstain until marriage have longer marriages than those who do not.
Stop polluting the world with your nonsense!