There are certain things that people do that can make me end any relations I have with them regardless of how long we have known each other or close we are.
1. HONESTY
I do no probe into people’s lives. I believe trust is earned so I expect people to tell things at their own free will without me pressuring them or sneaking around to find them.
If you are going to lie, it is better you do talk about it. Keeping quiet is much better than talking and saying a of lot lies. With the silence, you did not confirm nor deny and it does not cause much harm like lying about it.
Be honest about your dealings. In certain situations, you have to be completely honest. Sometimes we lie about some things to save ourselves but these things can cause more harm to others.
If my relations with you is going to work, you have be honest with me on most things.
Most often, I ask questions I already have the answers to. I am only asking to be sure I have the correct information or to know if someone would be honest with me.
Too many lies and we are done for good.
I want to feel safe with people, honesty creates security in any relationship.
2. When someone sends private information through social networks when he/she has my phone numbers or email address
Unless you cannot reach me via my phone numbers and emails after several attempts, do not send me any private information over social networks especially through a tweet on twitter or facebook chat.
It just amazes me at their lack of indiscretion. Not every information is for public consumption.
You have my phone number, call me or send me an email.
It just means I cannot trust you with information.
I do not stay in relationships without trust.
3. Use WHATEVER correctly
If we are having a casual conversation and I say something you do not like, just tell me but do not say whatever to me when I have not done anything rude or insulted you.
Whatever is one of the most offensive words ever!
Use it appropriately. Just throwing it around in a conversation shows you have no respect for the person you are talking to you. When I am disrespected, I end my relations with the person.
Treat me with respect and I will reciprocate.
I do not stay in relationships without respect.
4. YES is YES and NO is NO
I do not have time to play mind games. When I say No to you, I actually mean NO. Do not believe that myth that when a woman says no it means yes.
The reason most men believe a woman’s Yes is No is because women think a lot. Therefore, after saying No, she goes away, thinks about the situation all over again, and then later says Yes to you. It does not mean the first No meant Yes. It means she reconsidered her decision and realised she made a mistake saying No to you in the first place.
I am human, I have the right to change my mind, when I say Yes now, I mean YES. If I tell you No the next day, it means I reconsidered my decision.
5. PRESSURE
Pressure kills.
Do not make someone speed up their decisions or whatever they doing because it is in your best interest.
Rushing people to do things results in a lot of mistakes and some are fatal.
New relationships take time to mature and fully develop into beautiful relations.
When you meet new people and they give you their phone numbers, do not pressure them into a friendship or romantic relationship with you.
Give it time and see if two are compatible to maintain any relations before you make your decision.
Do not call me unnecessarily or stalk me after we just met a few days earlier.
I will just end anything I have with you.
Give things time to grow and mature!
Adios!
Preach. I am going to have to post my own deal breakers myself, I really never thought of “Whatever” like that until you mentioned it. I very much agree.
I can’t wait to read yours!