I have a lot of friends who are frustrated with me because I will not label them
Whether they are best friends, close friends, girlfriends or boyfriends
The moment I label my relationships
They carry unnecessary responsibilities
If I call someone my best friend then it means I have to start treating them as such
I do not have the energy for such responsibilities
If you are part of my life then it means you are important and that is all that matters
The role you play in my life depends on how my much information I tell you concerning me
If you know a little about me then you are an acquaintance
If you know enough about me then you are my friend
If you know a lot about me then you are my close friend
If you know almost everything about me then you are my best friend
If you know all most everything about and we are intimate, then you are my boyfriend/ fiancé/husband
If you know everything about me, then you must be GOD
Only God knows everything not humans
So choose where you fit in
Then you know what you mean to me
I do not label because some people take it too far
The moment you call them best friend or close friend
They begin to act up
They assume that since they mean that much to you, they can misbehave
So since I do not label them
I do not have drama in my relationships
My best friend does not even know she/he is my best friend
All she/he knows is that I love her/him and I will always be there
The biggest problem are those I have intimacy with
They want me to confirm that they are my are boyfriends or fiancé
But the moment I do, its means I am in a commitment and that freaks me out
Consciously I know I am in a commitment but I will not admit it to myself
It is only when I am married that I would label him as my husband
I have no choice with that
The word COMMITMENT scares me more than hell
It feels like being stuck in between hell and earth
Both places I definitely do not want to be
Of course we all want HEAVEN!
Love you all!
Interesting take on labels…now you know I’ve written about it:
http://sexandthecincy.wordpress.com/2013/06/07/i-am-______-who-are-you/
I see what you’re saying and I understand where you’re coming from. I guess it all depends on the situation and person.
You are a sucker for love so I understand. I am a philophobic so labels in romantic relationships really scare me.
But you wrote mostly about romantic relationships and mine is more of friendships.
I do not like going around announcing my friendships, once in a while I will label them or remind them of their importance in my life.
I think it is because I am not an emotional person. I hardly show affection.
Of course if I am dating a man, he has to label me!
I understand where you’re coming from. I think it can apply to friendships though although I can see where the problem can arise if people’s feelings get hurt because they’re not the best friend or maybe not even a friend at all.
Exactly!
The expectations involved.