LIVING AS A WOMAN

After spending four days with my girlfriends, I learnt so much about women

This getaway was exactly what I needed at this moment in my life as young woman growing up and discovering herself

 

When you become a young adult a lot of things change

Pressure is one of the most difficult things to deal with

Love, relationships, sex, marriage, education, childbirth and steady job become constant problems

 

Being with my girlfriends exposed me to so much

We have all had different experiences in life but the common challenges we all face are pressure and love

 

Here are some few things I want to share;

 

1.     Women know what they want, they just do not know how to prioritise them

I have heard so many men complain that women do not know what they want but I can assure you that they do. We have a problem with prioritising our needs and wants. Most often, we make the wrong things the important things in life.

If we women can prioritise the things in life, men can understand us better.

If we put ourselves first and love ourselves first, then it would be easier to love others and prove our worth. If we continue to belittle ourselves and think we can love others more then it will not work.

Women want marriages, children, education, a good job, health, etc. We have to learn to prioritise which one comes first. By doing do we know exactly how to accomplish these things.

 

2.     Women think they can change others

This is one of the biggest mistakes most women make. We cannot change anyone. We can help people realise that they need change and when they admit that to themselves too, then they can change themselves.

There is a popular saying that, ‘If his mama couldn’t do it what makes you?’

Most often, it is true. Do not think you can change a man. Be supportive but if he refuses to change, please let him go. Do not marry him and hope he changes for the better. Most often things get worse.

 

3.     Not all women love Jerks or Players

No mature woman wants to be treated like trash. They want to be treated with respect and dignity.

Only immature women want Jerks or Players. They want the thrill and fun they get from being with someone they know want short-lived pleasures.

I want a matured man, I do not have the time to babysit a grown man or bring up one. I am still a child growing and dating one will be tedious.

 

 

4.     Women go through more pressure than Men

Society judges women more than they judge men. We are pressured to conform to certain things more than men. When your female friends start getting married and have children, the pressure to do same is worse than what men go through.

No matter how successful you are as a woman, if you do not have a good marriage and children, you are worth nothing. Having husbands and children have been made our primary purpose on earth.

Some of my friends have started getting married in their early twenties and some have children.

When you visit your married friends, the conversation changes to their husbands and children

When you were both single, you talked about food, men, having fun and shopping.

Marriage changes friendships.

 

5.     Women are vulnerable

No matter how strong a woman is, she is still a woman and goes through all the emotions all women go through.

Women give their all in all most everything we do. We might pretend not to care but deep down we shut the door behind us and cry.

People think I have no emotions, because that is what I show them.

I do cry but behind closed doors. I feel all the emotions other women go through just that I am better at hiding mine.

When I fall in love, I feel the butterflies too, I daydream about my wedding, children and have a good marriage. However, you will never hear me say these things and it does not mean I do not want them.

When a woman loves you, please appreciate it. Remind her about how special she is and prove to her that she is worth something to you. No matter how strong she proves herself to you, she needs you.

Women need supportive partners.

Just because we have learnt to live with none does not mean we would not want the support of a partner.

 

These are some of the few things we discussed and I wanted to share.

 

Keep living Women!