I absolutely hate it when some people blame their job, family, race or their past when you want to end your friendship or relationship with them instead of their personalities or something they have done wrong.
When man is interested in dating you and you turn him down then he says,
“Is it because I’m a janitor?” or “Is because I’m African”?
You try all you can to explain to him that it has nothing to with his job or race but his personality or because you are just not interested in him. He insist it is about his job or race and you think he is not worthy enough. He makes you feel guilty for not dating him, if you are not strong-willed you might end up dating him out of pity so he stops those assumptions.
It is so frustrating! I wish people can see what I see in them so they stop those ridiculous assumptions. Unfortunately, we have to deal with them and hope they eventually change for the better or their assumptions.
Their insecurities are so bad they refuse to realise that their social status, race or education has got nothing to do with success of a relationship.
I think some people deliberately use these assumptions to just trap other people into relationships with them. They know that no one will tolerate their terrible personalities hence use false assumptions to trap others to date them.
Sometimes you might want a breakup because your partner is cheating on you but he/she insist it is because he/she is not as rich or educated as you. They use these assumptions to trap you into a relationship and you are defenseless against their assumptions and you just stay in an unhappy relationship.
It takes so much strong-will and maturity to deal with people like these and move on with your life. They will make you feel guilty so you have to know how to deal with them.
The best way to deal with such people is just walk away because it unlikely you will convince them.
Adios!